Dating many men same time
You might miss opportunities, you might miss dates, but at least you won't feel bad about having those opportunities in the first place.
You won't ever have to explain to someone "hey, you were really cool but I found this one person I like more".
It can be nerve-racking to go on a lot of first dates in a row, especially if you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while (or have never really “dated”).
And if you’re looking for commitment and eventually marriage, you probably want to avoid “playing the field” because it seems to trivialize the process of finding something so important in your life.
However, compare the dating experience to looking for a job. Yet revising your résumé, applying at lots of places, and going on multiple interviews helps you to be less nervous each time you’re in a recruiter’s office and teaches you how to sell yourself to potential employers.
Similarly, by going on several first dates, you soon learn to be less self-conscious and focus more on how the date is going.
Or is it healthy, even beneficial, to date multiple people at the same time in your quest to find a soul mate?
As long as you respect the feelings of the people you see and are truly looking for qualities that will lead to long-term love, it’s okay not to go steady with someone as of the first date.
You might choose the baked potato as your meal and then be too full later when they bring out the pesto chicken cacciatore sprinkled with gorgonzola and walnuts.
I really doubt this is going to be a popular opinion, but if you don't like that facet of the dating culture, don't conform to it.
If you see dating one person at a time as the honorable and right thing to do, then that's what you should do.
Optimal solution would be if both me and the girl I'm dating are on same page on this thing.
I went through a big online dating kick about a year ago, and typically was dating two girls at a time. And I regret it, because it led to me losing the only actual worth-a-damn woman I dated when she found out.