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So if you’re ready to get better at chatting people up in person, instead of just making awkward eye contact and giggling to yourself (wait, is that just me? Ahead, Harwick breaks down the ways to improve your face-to-face social skills.
You can probably guess the first part — step away from the i Phone.
If that’s too weird, have your friend come along to lessen the pressure. You know that bar you go to every Thursday night for trivia, hoping against hope that someone new and exciting will come in and totally change your life?
Yeah — the chances of that happening are pretty slim. But no one else is going to if you don’t start diversifying your hangouts.
But instead of Michelle Obama arms, you could wind up with a new friend or new significant other.
Or at the very least, a new go-to spot and a new skill.
You'll need to wade through a sea of profiles, which makes it easy to pass over people you might have given a chance under different circumstances. I have friends who've met spouses through Ok Cupid. In fact, I've been on Ok Cupid, on and off, for roughly the last 11 years.
“If you go to a variety of different styles of places with different groups of friends,” Hardwick says, “you are much more likely to increase your potential to meet somebody romantically.” That’s the part that seems the hardest — actually getting out into the world and interacting with different people. It’s the same as working out a muscle — you’ve just got to work at it until it’s strong.“Friend referrals are a great way to meet people,” Harwick says.Chances are if you and your friend share some common interests, their pals also share some of those same interests. Ask them if there are any interesting people in their other circles they think you’d hit it off with — platonically or otherwise — and then set up a coffee or drink with them.“We tend to check our social-media platforms several times a day, often looking at text messages, and checking emails,” Harwick says.“If we spend even a fraction of that time actually getting out physically into different environments, we would have a much greater chance to meet new friends or potential partners.” So look up! Harwick says it’s important to be mindful about who is around you once you’re tapped out of the Matrix. If you’re more mindful about who is around during those interactions, you’ll likely be more mindful about who is open to a chat.